It’s in our human nature for us to want everyone to like or need us. Unfortunately, the harsh reality is that no matter what you do or don’t do, there will always be someone there to criticize or even hate you. You’d have to be Superman, Superwoman, or a robot to not let a snarky email or unkind comments get under your skin at times. It’s okay to feel hurt but not devastated or victimized by what others think or say, especially if they don’t take the time to get to know you, their remarks are based in falsehoods, or if they misjudge you. To be successful, however, you must learn how to rise above the fray, the jealousies, the distractions, and, as they say, DO YOU!
The New Year is the perfect time to zero in on yourself and learn how to be comfortable in your own skin. It’s time to throw your shoulders back, raise your head high, stand in your truth, and write your own story. Here are just a few tips to help you do just that:
Assemble Your Buddies – When someone tries to bring you down or pick you apart, reach out to your support system. These special select individuals will help motivate you to get back to your truth. Your friends should always have your back and will always be there for you in your time of need. Conversely, avoid those people who drag you down, are toxic to be around, and who don’t truly care about your well-being.
Don’t Give it a Second Thought – Occasionally, there may be times when we will be misjudged or mistreated. When this happens, remember the wise words of Eleanor Roosevelt: “No one can make you inferior without your consent.” Don’t let their negativity and animosity ruin your day. Remember that you are in control of how you react to situations and vitriol. Let those hurtful actions and words roll right off your back.
Stay Focused on Your Goals – Other’s snide remarks and harmful comments can easily distract us. Do what you can to put blinders on and keep moving toward your short- and long-term goals. Stay the course and head toward the finish line. Accomplishments and success will be your targets!
Learn from Constructive Criticism – Criticism, on the other hand, can be quite useful to us, even if it’s dealt to us in a brusque or blunt way. Listen to what others are saying and reflect on its verity. If it has merit, use it as a tool to help you learn and grow in a positive direction. If it isn’t true, let go, and move forward.
Kill ‘Em With Kindness – It takes a certain kind of strength and courage to treat others with compassion, especially those who’ve harmed us with unkind words and deeds. Temper yourself to remain calm, collected, and kind to everyone. The people who are working to tear you down will be utterly confused, and the people who admire you will learn from your positive example. Remember, there is always someone watching you. Be the example!
MSPs, everyone has an opinion, but their opinion does not necessarily make it valid or true. Know thyself! Learn and grow! Know your truth! Walk in confidence! Demonstrate competence! Practice kindness! Let yourself shine! SMILE!