We have all faced adversity at some point in our lives. Whether you’re staring down obstacles in your personal life or are experiencing roadblocks along your path in your career, we face challenges every single day. It doesn’t matter what kind of adversity is standing in your way at this moment – what matters is how you manage it and the steps you take to get yourself to the other side.
We often see times of trouble as negative. No, it isn’t fun to find yourself mired in stressful or difficult situations; however, adversity can be a great teacher. It can show you new ways of thinking or problem solving, teach you valuable life lessons, and can shape you into the best possible version of yourself.
No matter how impossible the situation you’re currently in seems, you can overcome it. You don’t have to let your adversity or the cruel thoughts of others define who you are. There will always be hard times, and there will always be someone who will criticize you, no matter what you do. That’s why you need to stand up straight, face yourself in the mirror, and be proud of the reflection staring back at you – always.
When difficult times, challenges, or criticism comes your way, you can make a few different choices. You can react to them and become angry. You can lose yourself in shock and fill your heart with despair. Or you can stand strong, accept what is in front of you, and take the challenge head-on.
Here are 5 areas in which you can make some bold, progressive choices as you work your way through your adversity. Follow them, and the path ahead of you will become clear:
Clarity – What matters to you? Clarity is all about keeping the important things in your life meaningful. Seek out the people, things, and ideas that matter to you and cling to them during times of adversity.
Accountability – This means taking responsibility for yourself and for your actions. If someone criticizes how you look or carry yourself, or if you find that your work is being criticized, you are responsible for how you react. Instead of responding in anger or self-deprecation, stand tall, admit any error on your part, and work to better yourself while staying true to who you are.
Adaptability – If you want to get through your obstacles successfully, remember this: personal change always comes before practical change. That means that you need to make changes within yourself before you can affect what’s around you. Are there any negative habits or patterns of thinking that are getting in the way of your success? If so, address them and take the necessary steps to make the changes you want to see.
Confidence – It’s easy to let those negative thoughts creep in and drag you down. Don’t let pessimistic thoughts derail you! Stay strong in who you are and interrupt those thoughts with positive affirmations. Instead of thinking, “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never get it right,” remind yourself that you are smart, capable, and important. With enough practice, you will find yourself habitually thinking these good things about yourself!
Balance – It’s easy to cave in to what’s popular than to stand strong in what’s right. Gather the strength that you know you possess deep inside you and choose the harder right over the easier wrong in your life. You won’t just keep yourself grounded in your own personal beliefs of right and wrong, but you may also win the respect of those around you in the process.
Aside from these 5 critical points, I offer these additional points to help you along your way:
*Make a set time for disappointment. Don’t just ignore reality. Acknowledge the hurt or frustration that you experience, but remember to give yourself a set time for that acknowledgement. Dwelling and worrying won’t help you get anywhere.
*Return to your personal mission statement. Are you still doing what you’re doing for the right reasons? Do they align with what you hold to be true? Make sure that you’re still on the path you want to be on.
*Surround yourself with the right people. You need people in your corner, people who understand who you are and what your goals are. Stick closely to positive people – they will help you get back up and can help motivate you to continue persevering!
Whatever struggling you’re going through right now, MSPs, remember the wise words of Eleanor Roosevelt: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” What you do matters – YOU matter – and you should never let anyone dull your sparkle! Keep going, MSPs – SMILE!