What is the most common reason why people fail in whatever they set out to do?
While a lack of discipline or persistence can certainly derail us, there is only one thing that truly halts us in our tracks. It’s an insidious voice that whispers convincing lies – lies that we often believe without question. This manipulative killer of our dreams is none other than the beast named self-doubt.
Self-doubt is the quicksand that keeps us stuck and holds us back from accomplishing our goals. It’s what stops writers from putting pen to paper and submitting their work for publishing. It’s the thing that makes a young professional fixate on the notion that he or she isn’t smart or capable enough to take on more responsibilities at work.
Although it mostly goes unspoken, we all suffer from self-doubt. All of us – yes, even doctors! – experience fear, which is the fuel that self-doubt feasts on. It doesn’t matter how competent, passionate, or knowledgeable we are; self-doubt will still take pot shots at our confidence. The good news is you can take steps right now to intervene and overcome it!
Here are 6 ways you can become the boss of your own life and accomplish even your wildest dreams:
Take a Step Back
The moment you feel yourself starting to listen to the negative thoughts building in your mind, step back and ground yourself in the present. Breathe deeply, quiet your mind, and take a look at your surroundings. If self-doubt continues to gnaw at you, get outside for a little bit. The outdoors have a naturally calming effect and can help take us away from our worries.
No matter where you are in life, there is always something you can improve upon. Take an honest look at yourself and see where you can develop your skills further. Figure out what you truly want, reignite your passion, and truly go for it without self-doubt holding you back!
Perfection isn’t possible. We are human, which means we will all make many mistakes along the journey. When you do fail, pick yourself up, learn from your mistakes, and continue to move forward. Remember, when you fail, you are learning, which will ultimately help guide you on the road to success!
Stop Comparing Yourself
It’s only natural to compare yourself to others; however, it will only rob you of happiness. You need to remember that you are unique – there is no one in the world like you, so it’s absolutely futile to draw comparisons between yourself and others. You are doing yourself an injustice!
Be Kind to Yourself
When self-doubt and negative self-talk run on a constant loop, you can be left feeling drained, exhausted, and discouraged. When this happens, do what you can to drown out the negativity and take care of yourself. Drink plenty of water, eat well, and get enough sleep. Keep your work and home life balanced, and take the time to engage in your favorite hobbies. It’s no secret that we function at our best when we take the time to care for ourselves!
When negative thoughts begin weighing you down, it’s important to stay close to your friends and families. They are your biggest fans and will help you overcome your self- doubt. Even a knowledgeable colleague, mentor, or professional therapist can help you wade through the waters of doubt and help build your confidence.
Combating self-doubt is not an easy process, but if you persevere and follow my tips, you will see improvement. It won’t happen overnight, but it will get easier in time. Just remember, you are not alone! Keep hanging in there, MSPs, and SMILE!